Fola Daniel Adelesi: Throwing Opportunities Away

When a man or woman is myopic, one of the things that happen to such people is that they end up throwing opportunities away. Many people are looking for opportunities today but are unconsciously losing the ones they have because of the limitations in their minds. Are you looking for opportunities today? Have you checked the self imposed limitations that you have which may be working against those opportunities?

I once shared the story of a grandma who was cutting her fish in a certain way because of the size of her frying pan. Her children followed suit not knowing why she did what she did. I am not sure if it is the same story told in another way but there was another fish related story. A young man would go to the stream to catch fishes. Each time he caught a fish he would measure them and if they were longer than a given length he would throw them back into the water. When he caught a small one or the ones that were the exact length he was working with he would keep that one. A man who stood by and was watching what he did eventually approached him and asked why he threw the bigger ones back into the water.

His answer amused the man. He had been throwing the longer

fishes back into the water because the ruler he had with him was the size of the frying pan or his pot. What he then decided to do was that any fish that was bigger than his pot would be thrown back into the water but he kept the ones that could fit. The boy did not see the need to keep the big fish because any longer fish would not fit into the frying pan. He did not obviously think about how he could cut and preserve big fishes until they were needed.

That boy had a good problem which could have brought him more opportunities. He didn’t see it that way. As far as he was concerned it was a problem and he did not want it. If he had though about other things to do rather than throwing the fishes away, he probably would have started selling fishes to those other people who had bigger pots or save them the time of trying to fish on their own and be paid. He could also have started a preservative business for everyone. You could go to him with the fishes you caught and have them preserved until they were needed. That way you would reduce how much time you have to go back and fish as well.

Many of us are like that young boy in some ways. We throw away some opportunities deliberately because we do not understand how we can work with them. Some people are intimidated by the opportunities they are seeing. Once the opportunities intimidate them, they just let it go.

You have to start thinking differently. You must allow your mind operate in another way. And the first thing to think about is the fact that the opportunities you are seeing are not opportunities for you alone. You get some opportunities so that you can make an impact in the lives of other people.

What that tells you is that a lot of people who throw opportunities away because they are only thinking about themselves. I should say that there are many opportunities you will come across, but they will not be tailored for you alone. Nevertheless, you still have to take them, work with them and allow other benefit from them.

You should stop throwing opportunities right now because you are intimidated by them or you just don’t know how to manage them. When you manage the first one, another one comes and when you do that other one, you will soon learn to live with big opportunities and maximize them. Take those opportunities and get help, if you need help, to use them.

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Fola Daniel Adelesi is a professional public speaker who also trains other speakers, an author, business consultant and highly skilled master of ceremony with excellent poise and diction. He was on the Debaters TV reality show season 1, presented ‘You Can’ on Radio Continental in 2011, did motivational segments on Galaxy TV from Dec 2008 to August 2009 and has authored 3 books including Writing Business Proposals.